I support people who Long for More to create deeply satisfying sex and relationship lives.

I know what it’s like to crave more while being told that you’re too needy, too difficult, or too selfish for wanting it.

I grew up learning that I was “too much,” with my mom frequently telling me, “If you don’t change, everyone will eventually leave you.” I internalized this and began suppressing my needs and desires in relationships, which led to deep dissatisfaction.

Eventually, I reached a breaking point and began a long journey of learning how to fully love myself and accept my desires. I spent thousands of hours studying sex, intimacy, and relationships in an effort to understand how to create healthy, fulfilling sex and relationship life.

Today, I bring everything I’ve learned into my sex and relationship coaching to support people in moving beyond survival and into lives filled with pleasure and connection.

Your desires and flaws don’t disqualify you from pleasure, intimacy, or love. Empowerment comes from learning how to live with them, not from trying to erase them.

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What makes somatic sex and relationship coaching so effective?

Unlike traditional psychoanalysis or therapy, which often stays cognitive, or tantra-based work, which can lack scientific grounding, my approach integrates psychology research with embodied, somatic practice.

Somatic sex and relationship coaching works because we do not just talk about intimacy. We actively practice how arousal, connection, and attraction are experienced in the body, not relying solely on cognitive insight. Using the Somatica® Method, sessions are experiential and collaborative. We practice tools for intimacy, communication, and pleasure in session so change can be felt and integrated into everyday life.

Thus, this type of coaching is for people who don’t simply want to settle for “fine” or functional, but who crave mind-blowing, deeply satisfying intimacy.

  • "Anya combines deep empathy with striking insight and coaching skills. I have benefited greatly from our sessions and strongly recommend her to those looking to heal and deepen in the domains of relationships, intimacy, and sexuality."

    —KE

  • “For the past year, Anya has been a wonderful coach! 100% recommend her for her professionalism, warmth, and listening skills.”

    — Maddie

  • “In coaching, I gained insights about my core desires in my relationships and sexuality that I today use as guiding principles and values in my dating. It has given me clarity and discernment in my choice of partners, and thus, also a sense of security.”

    — Tatiana

  • “Anya made me see my own progress, to feel good just as I am and to support me that I am entitled to my own needs and feelings.”

    — Josefin

  • “Anya is intuitively responsive and able to put words to what I was feeling, while also offering valuable guidance on how to move forward. I now have greater awareness and can approach my sexuality in a more playful way.”

    — Emma

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My Background: Embodied Practice and Research

I’ve supported hundreds of people in creating more fulfilling sex and relationship lives through one-on-one coaching, classes, and workshops. Everything I bring into this work is focused on helping you feel more connected, confident, and at home in your body and relationships.

My 1.5-year training through the Somatica® Institute taught me how to work experientially with desire, attachment, and intimacy challenges. Alongside this, I hold a bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of California, Santa Cruz, and am currently pursuing graduate-level studies in sexology at Malmö University. This allows me to support complex problems that use both embodied practices and are grounded in research.

I’ve also assisted in a human sexuality research lab focused on kink and am currently involved in research on positive sexual aging. This means I meet a wide range of experiences with openness and without judgment, while understanding how sexuality can evolve and remain fulfilling over a life time.

As a certified yoga and breathwork teacher, I integrate the nervous system and body into our work, helping you build greater safety, attraction, and intimacy as you create the sex and relationship life you want.

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Curious to see if sex and relationship coaching is right for you?

FAQs

    • Meetings with clients only happen during session times – I will not meet with my clients outside of sessions.

    • Clients and the practitioner remain fully clothed during sessions.

    • Having explicit verbal consent consistently throughout the session, especially when touch is involved.

  • Overcome shame related to sexual desires and fantasies.

    Address causes of low libido, such as emotional distance, resentment, trauma, stress, and poor self-image.

    Learn to relax and enjoy sexual pleasure.

    Resolve sexual dysfunctions.

    Understand sexual dimensions and identify core desires.

    Enhance communication and consent skills.

    Set and respect personal boundaries.

    Develop foreplay and seduction skills, including erotic talk and touch.

    Handle differing sexual desires in relationships.

    Heal from sexual trauma.

    Discuss safe sex practices and reduce stigma around STDs.

    Embrace sexual or gender identity.

    Improve dating skills, including online dating.

    Address sex and porn addiction concerns.

    Navigate ethical non-monogamy and relationship structures.

    Explore kink, BDSM, and fetishes.

    See the Somatica Website for more.

  • The Somatica Method® is grounded in both emotional and sensual connections. It merges conversational coaching with practical exercises, enabling the coach and client to broaden their understanding and capabilities in intimacy. This strategy is essential for altering existing patterns, discovering one's authentic identity, and achieving a more satisfying sexual life and deeper connections.

    Traditional dialogue-focused therapy alone is insufficient for breaking free from the sexual or relationship habits ingrained over a lifetime. Lasting transformation requires recognizing and modifying routine behaviors. By engaging in an experiential and embodied approach, the Somatica Method® often proves more impactful than mere cognitive strategies.

  • Hands-on and experimental means we can actively practice the skills in session to bring them into the world. For example, we may practice intimacy and relationships in session, like with eye gazing exercises or exchanging erotic energy. Another example is if we are working on understanding our boundaries, we could practice feeling the sensations of a boundary being crossed in real-time, which helps us map ourselves in real life.

    Embodied means bringing one into their own body to notice the sensations and emotions we may be feeling to help increase our ability to connect and foster intimacy. Thus, the Somatica Method often utilizes meditation and mindfulness techniques.